“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”……. Dr. Seuss
Probably the most vital lesson we can learn in life is the importance of what we think. Some say that if they knew what you think, they would know what you are. Indeed our thoughts make us who we are. If we think failure we will face failure. If we think of lack and worry we will have lack and worry. If we think happy thoughts we will be happy in life.
The fact is some situations and events in our life appear to be this or that, but are not really what they appear to be. It is our particular attitude, our thoughts, our focus about these events that befall us that color our personal reality. Your opinion is the one thing that is in your control and it is that one thing that will make your life what it is.
“Your time is limited; don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – …….Steve Jobs
Most often, though, it appears to us as if our feelings; regarding our state of affairs is not in our control. Many people feel as if life is ruling them. Even if you feel you have no direct control over your feelings you still have control over your physical actions. The power is in your own hands. You are ultimately responsible for your own state of being.
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Your life is what your thoughts make it. ….Aurelius, Marcus
“He who chooses the beginning of the road chooses the place it leads to. It is the means that determines the end.”
Harry Emerson Fosdick
New beginnings are what we all require at frequent intervals in life to break the monotony which brings stagnation to our lives.
I have made many changes in my life…being thankful for each of my disappointments along this journey, which have caused me to ponder at the crossroad for choosing other paths…awakening the power within for adding a re-freshness to my daily life; not only did I survive, but continue my determination and perseverance for starting a new life.
Without change things would get really boring, really fast. Change is an event in life that happens whether you want it to happen or not. Change is good but it is very important that people are able to deal with change.
There are many people out there who have a fear of it as well and this is very sad, they miss the chances put before them for moving on…for exploring their true feelings and wishes.
A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.”
Lao Tzu quote
Who was it that said, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me”? Unconditional love, respect, and honor build character, as well as adding happiness and content in life, it’s time we take the responsibility and choose our words wisely.
“Life is about choices, our chosen words, and our attitudes.”
Remember this little rhyme from childhood? When we were children, we were told that sticks and stones could break our bones but words could never hurt us. This is not always true, words can hurt…and more then not…can last a life time.
Words carry value or they can contain vicious meaning. I spend a lot of time observing my thoughts. Whether I’m meditating, driving, waiting for sleep to come, walking, or doing routine tasks around the house, I am constantly thinking about my thoughts…weighing every detail.
I usually don’t let other people’s opinions of me bother me, I let it wash off, like water off a duck’s back …I figure I must be of some importance to their flock of gossip or they would not give my goings on a second thought !!
As I ponder more about the power of words and how words can hurt and even ruin people’s lives and/or careers. Such devastating impacts result from strings of words that spill from people’s mouths. A lot it…..gossip. It makes me wonder why gossip is so popular and I came to one truthful conclusion. Gossip is a trend here to stay….Why does one worry about other people’s business? Is it really the reflection of one’s own life?
The things most people want to know about are usually none of their business. ~ George Bernard Shaw
Whoever gossips to you will gossip about you. ~ Spanish Proverb
I believe that life and death are in the power of our tongue; I believe what comes out of the mouth can contain words that defile you. I believe that a soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stirs up strife. Words can be lethal as weapons; Physical pain as a sting from a slap in the face goes away in time, but hurtful words can last forever with leaving footprints upon the heart.
What you don’t see with your eyes, don’t witness with your mouth.
~Jewish Proverb
I did not become a strong woman, by spending hours in a gym building strong muscles. I became strong my each of my trials and error in life. I feel we can learn from our mistakes, or we can go through life remaining in turmoil….never making any changes…I chose to make the necessary changes to build my inner strength to cope with future problems that I would face on down this journey of life.
Being a survivor of physical and mental abuse, I managed to build quite a stern approach to assure myself never to allow this to repeat itself in my life.
As a woman who fought her battles and found inner peace and strength to rebuild her life. Through perseverance and determination, I have lived a good life…..Life is Great!!!!
Many of us as once young girls..have fantasized about becoming a woman; waking everyday with silky smooth legs & curvaceous bodies. Gliding in high heels, wearing makeup, garter-belts, and stockings and blending in. Enjoying our feminine self without any hecklers or unwanted remarks. For some this is more than fantasy, it is a lifelong objective just within reach.
Being a woman doesn’t make me weak. A woman knows her worth, but makes everyone believe she’s priceless. Everything she does – she does it with elegance. She knows how to make men dance to her tune and she really enjoys it. She always stays independent, careless and free. She knows what she wants, and will never let anyone stay in her way. A real woman is quite self-confident not to care about the rumors or public opinion, holding her head up high.
It’s time for women to rediscover their value as well as the true source of their power. Cast off the wearisome task of flexing external muscles in favor of gaining the long-term benefits that come from celebrating your innate internal gifts — sensitivity, intuition, strength, and influence.
Get a handle on the true feminine mystique that has been lying dormant in your spirit, and discover the keys to living the life you want and getting the love you were made to receive. Thoughtful study questions will assist you in reclaiming your rightful identity as a woman.
Unleash the power that comes from being beautifully you!
On my knees screaming at the clouds as tears fall from the sky:
Have you ever been so hurt, your heart turns to stone? I spent years living with a cold heart to love, no one was going to get close to my heart ever again…..it worked for several years….till one day someone did walk into my life…managing to break through my walls and my coldness, giving me hopes of finding that right one, the one who would make me happy, give me the feeling of loving and trusting again…”You Had Me At Hello”….to have it only end up destroying my life once again.
When two people connect on many levels, knowing a comfort like never experiencing before…why does it fall apart?…leaving a feeling of hopelessness and despair..The pain unbearable….and you’re left to ponder only the memories of what was…but yet; never met to be.
Your vision becomes clearer only when you look deeper into your heart … When looking outside; you only have your dreams. When looking inside, awakens the soul. In reality, letting go is the only escape…to put your life back together and move on. It’s surprising, how you can pick up the pieces again…seeing a new world of adventure and meeting new friends…adding dimension far greater than you ever imagined…..you have to wonder was it all a dream…or does it yet; have another chapter?
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart……Helen Keller
In our deepest moments of struggle, frustration, fear, and confusion, we are being called upon to reach in and touch our hearts. Then, we will know what to do, what to say, how to be. What is right is always in our deepest heart of hearts. It is from the deepest part of our hearts that we are capable of reaching out and touching another human being. It is, after all, “one heart touching another heart”…….Robert Sage Hamilton
Have you ever been to a masquerade party, or even watched the antics of masked revelers at Mardi gras or a Halloween costume party? Normal, average people do some pretty crazy things when they are protected by the anonymity of wearing a mask. Why?
In order to prevent our true inner self from being seen, we wear a symbolic or metaphorical mask over our authentic personality in the hope that we will remain hidden.
It is up to us to actively improve ourselves physically and spiritually by gaining new skills and nurturing the older ones; this is possible by finding new ways to enhance our personality and appearance, but especially by regarding ourselves as valuable.
It takes courage to come to grips with a psychological problem that badgers us. The easiest way to transcend our “self”-made problems and become public-minded is to activate our spirit, for it is the spirit which gives the impetus to change. The other alternative we have is to remain imprisoned in our own small world.
We create an image of ourselves that is different from (and usually better than) the person we believe we are. We put on a mask that shows the world a different face and we hide behind it for as long as possible. Better yet, we don’t let them get close enough to see what’s secretly hidden under it, making us vulunerable for our actions.
Some people never take off their mask, causing loss of their true hidden identity and soul completely. Why waste your life pretending to be someone or something other than you? Isn’t it wonderful to have ones around who will accept you as yourself, with not setting judgment or criticism? Freely being able to be your true self, accepting your flaws and your ways.
I’ve grown certain that the root of all fear is that we’ve been forced to deny who we are.” Lythe Frances Moore Lappe
In beginning my semi-retirement, there are so many places to go, and many activities on my agenda. I may even take a stroll among all the beautiful colored leaves. I am taking a break from writing my blogs; to enjoy the season of the fall –as I have lots of catching up to do on so many things.
I will be back soon!!! I will miss each of you; you will be in my thoughts.
I want to send my best wishes to each of my regular bloggers, all my FB Fan-page followers, and to all the viewers all around the world for being a part of “Life’s a Beach Journal, and thankful for each of your comments and inspiration you give me. I am looking forward to returning back soon, with exciting new ideas and more inspiration about living our dreams and life’s journeys.
The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.
“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
Albert Einstein
It takes willful effort, energy and constant vigilance to think about our choices … all of them. As we dream and grow, we end up envisioning an ideal life; usually as some sort of Utopian static reality in which things never go out of whack, there are no setbacks, and our every desire manifests as soon as it is conceived. That would be nice, but it doesn’t happen that way. But, we can hope for all things.
I believe we do have a certain amount of control over our life, we hold the reins to what we will accept and what we will not accept. We choose our own paths; but it’s choosing the one that will let us be ourselves, and one we hope to find amazing truths, adventure, and filled with chances for growth, healing, and direction.
The best day of my life, was when I chose to live my own life. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on-rely on, or blame and with-out apologies. The gift was mine-I alone am responsible for the quality of it. This is the day my life really begins!
“Your time is limited; don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs
Unconditional love, respect, and honor build character, as well as adding happiness and content in life, it’s time we take the responsibility and choose our words wisely. “Life is about choices, our chosen words, and our attitudes.”
“We have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.”
“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company… a church… a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.”
Charles R. Swindoll q
You can emotionally love someone, but not trust them. You can trust them, but not emotionally love them. When you trust a person, you believe that they have your best interest at heart. They wouldn’t do something to hurt you for their own selfish gain.
You earn a person’s trust by consistently proving yourself to them. You show them that you will not use them or take advantage of them. You will not abuse them and always be grateful for their generosity. You will think of their feelings, before acting.
“We’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone – but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy”
Walter Anderson
People spend a lifetime searching for happiness; looking for peace. They chase idle dreams, addictions, religions, even other people, hoping to fill the emptiness that plagues them. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within…….. Romana L. Anderson
“ Some Things in Life-Mean More than money”
Happiness is a word that can mean different things to different people. … But for now, I am thankful for what I do have in abundance in my life-which is definitely not money. … “Having enough for my lifestyle and then some to spare”. … Being in the 50+ range; time spent wisely, definitely places more of importance to me.
Each decision comes with a price, be it money, time, or something else. I mean, when I look around, I see a lot of struggling—in my own life and in others around me … I race and I chase, so that I can make more money, have more success, be more attractive, and hopefully be happier in some distant future when … perhaps, we are making life a lot more complicated than it needs to be. …
I believe that we were all sent here for a reason and that we all have a significance purpose in the world. I genuinely feel that we are all blessed with unique gifts. The expression of our gifts contributes to a cause greater than ourselves.
“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath.
“In The End We Only Regret the Chances We Didn’t Take,”
The relationships we were scared to take that chance … There comes a time in your life when you realize. …who matters……who never did…….and who always will?
“Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for awhile and leave footprints on our hearts. And we are never, ever the same.
Truly happy people are happy because they have found joy and peace within themselves. These fortunate people have discovered that happiness is a choice, and they choose to be happy in an uncertain world.
