“For your life to change you must change” – Jim Rohn

Without decision, there is no commitment:

 We often fail to make progress in life, business and relationships because we postpone action until we feel as though we have all the “right answers.” We painstakingly research all the facts, consider every angle and study each relevant detail. However, this quest for the “right answer” has us sitting on the fence in limbo, often without end.

We can stay who we are, or we can make changes to become who we want to be. Sometimes it can take a little brainstorming to come up with a list of possible solutions, but rarely are you truly ever without any choices. Believing that we cannot change encourages us to accept our weaknesses. It is always easier to stay put within our comfort zone, where we are the most familiar. Whilst some people change for the better earlier; some people will wait till they feel it is really too painful to stay put where they are currently.

You feel you need outside reassurance that you’re doing the right thing. You’ll ask everyone for their opinion so that you don’t have to take responsibility for making the decision, taking away the blame of the outcome. I can tell you from personal experience that the absolute hardest part of making a huge decision is during the time when I’m agonizing over it. But, in the end, I’ve always gone with my heart.

“What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined to strengthen each other, to be at one with each other in silent, unspeakable memories” –George Eliot

“There are only four questions of value in life: What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for? What is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same: Only love.”– Don Juan DeMarco

 “Every secret of a writer’s soul, every experience of his life, every quality of his mind is written large in his works”…..Virginia Woolf

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My personal belief is to ‘Honor Your Inner Muse’; the perfect expression of you that is nestled quietly deep inside, just under the surface. Where there is no judgment of not being good enough, pretty enough, popular enough, nor smart enough.

This crazy cool girl inside of you is perfect in every way! Get to know her, listen to her, in silence or out in nature. … She’s in your soul self and is constantly guiding you, giving you creativity even when you may not know it. Inspirations that flow into your life and the journey you are experiencing as you embrace your inner Spirited Woman.

What inspires you? What nurtures your creativity? What fuels your visionary gift and where does it come from?

Truly, the source of creativity has been a mystery ever since our earliest times.

I never have trouble finding something to write about. A bigger problem for me is finding something inspiring enough that I’ll make the time to write about it. Most of my thoughts start running through my head before I go to sleep at night.

Your creative muse is calling you. Nurturing your creativity is way more important than doing something that drains your energy. Your creative muse is calling you; unleashing your inner diva-and knows our boundaries.

 Nurturing your thoughts for seeking your Muse is the search every writer undertakes every time he or she makes a serious commitment to putting words together for others to read in the hope that the words will in some way entertain, inform, comfort or inspire. But when it does; it’s magical. Finding your muse is finding your goddess.

Refresh your own memory, look inside yourself at your source of inspiration and find your Muse.

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These most famous words spoken on this tragic day by Todd Beamer “LET”S ROLL”Many, thousands of lives were saved on this day, by this deliberate act of courage and strength by these guys-they took over the highjackers of United Airlines Flight “93″ over Shanksville, Pa- crashing into the fields.

37 passengers and 7 crew members lost their lives,so that many lives were saved.

This act of courage will always be remembered in the hearts of all Americans.

                   ”God Bless all families during this day of rememberence”

The Twin Towers 911

In loving Memory of all those who lost their life on 911 – Bless each family who lost a love one on this tragic day no American will ever forget.

                      ” GOD BLESS AMERICA”

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                            Building a Sandcastle before the Tide

If you ever sat by the sea and molded the sand into towers and walls, creating a sand castle, you are certainly not alone. The art of sand sculpting is unique in that a patron is able to watch the piece actually being formed and shaped as the artist works. This type of “art in action” is certainly fascinating for people of all ages.

Building a relationship, sometimes reminds me when I was a child building those sandcastles on the beach. I would keep adding sand, and watering it, patting it, forming this sculpture into something beautiful. Then a huge wave would come in and wash the sandcastle away into the sands, as I would stand and watch every strand of my hard effort of building something, disappear right before my eyes.

In fact, relationships are the biggest catalyst for growth in most people’s lives. The desire to feel connected is a basic human instinct. Of course, the foundation of this feeling is not new, it is quite old. So only take this as a reminder that becoming attached to a single person, or a set of people, is a completely natural reaction; but always remember that you are in the midst of a sandcastle before the tide.

Enjoy the time while it lasts, but never place your happiness and validation into the hands of others. I’ve learned this personally time and time again. To side-step much suffering, it is helpful to let seasons pass in their own time, and to relish in the changes when they come, knowing that the next stage will shape you into an even stronger and more compassionate person than you are now.

You have to feel good with yourself, as others will always come into your life, who will try to tear you down-it’s showing them what you will accept and not accept. Sometimes there are storms that bring huge tides; with waters destroying those beautiful sandcastles you’ve built. You can dwell on the destruction, by sitting on the fence post, or you can choose to notice that the sand you built them with is still there. It is merely smoothed out, leaving room; so you can build a bigger and better sandcastle!

The sandcastles we build today are only a reflection of our desires. Love will lose its essence; it will dry up and all goes to waste if separated in order to preserve or protect. Building it far away to protect it from the waves of the sea is to destroy the essence of its presence and its beauty.

You can’t stop loving or wanting to love because when it’s right, it’s the best thing in the world. When you’re in a relationship and its good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete. ~ Keith Sweat

 The emotional virus lives and thrives in the gap between expectations and perceived reality.

I am a passionate creator in my thoughts, but I have to watch my tendency to become too creative as I take on more meaning, by taking on deeper depth.

My written journal has also become an inspiration. I record the simplest connections and the smallest details of my intuitions about my day. I just experience my life and let it live through me.

I totally believe in being in touch with my “negative” emotions, as they can have positive benefits. I’ve noticed the more I am aware of discomfort the more I am aware of comfort. When I am attuned to my emotions I’m more aware of reality. I feel it’s so important to be in touch with our inner feelings, seeking them out, embracing their touch; and searching its meaning; giving me a direction and purpose for staying out of deep waters.

When I meditate, I feel a connection with a power way beyond my own. Some may call this energy, God, Spirit, or many other names, but to me it’s all one inner power for healing. It’s where I have come to reside in a place of healing. I seek this inner refuge mainly through my mind’s inner eye, which represents the mental and spiritual energy fields; for which I find my safe haven. It’s a process of stepping back from what I think I am supposed to do; instead allowing me to become more aware of who I am and giving me a direction to choose.

The moments of feeling you are drowning in your thoughts, hanging on to life by a thread. Reach out and search the inner side of the situation, its purpose and meaning with depth. You will find solutions and meaning for living your life.

Life is short, and it‘s purpose is to explore our thoughts, and enjoy our adventures and the paths we tread.

“You don’t drown by falling in the water; you drown by staying there”……Edwin Louis Cole

 “There is sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness but of power. They are messengers of overwhelming grief and of unspeakable love.” ~ Washington Irving

Disappointments in our life take on many forms. Along this journey, it may feel like you’ve lost track of your life, of your direction and your purpose; cultivating emotional resilience. The less attached we are to living life as we have known it, and the more open and resilient we are—the more we are utilizing the many inner tools that exist for preparing our emotions, our bodies, and our souls for collapse, the more capacity we create for navigating a formidable future.

“We grow through adversity. We need not seek it out; we can all look back at moments when our lives were in utter chaos, desolation and despair. Growth comes when we respond to adversity by stretching just an edge beyond our talent and experience.”~ Dr. Robert D. Wald

Tears are emotions, and sometimes after a good cry, I have felt a sense of cleansing; made new, a fresh awareness. We should never feel shedding a tear is a form of weakness. Broken relationships can seem unbearable at the time, leaving a feeling of hopelessness, invulnerability, leaving a void in your heart for long period of times. This emptiness saturates every thought and every fiber in your being. Thus we must prepare for a very uncertain future by consciously cultivating our emotional resilience.

“When we honestly ask ourselves which persons in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.” ~ Henri Nouwen

During the last few days of watching my brother slowly leave this earth, was a very emotional setback and I do not mind telling you, I shed many tears during this period of time. It’s very difficult losing our love ones, we have known for a lifetime. But, their memory stays within our heart forever. You can never find the right words, and you can never explain your feelings at this time. The feeling of loss  is so tensified; feelings of  loneliness sweeping over me; stabbing deep within me every waking moment.

“Every great loss demands that we choose life again. We need to grieve in order to do this. The pain we have not grieved over will always stand between us and life. When we don’t grieve, a part of us becomes caught in the past like Lot’s wife who, because she looked back, was turned into a pillar of salt. Grieving is not about forgetting. Grieving allows us to heal, to remember with love rather than pain. It is a sorting process. One by one you let go of the things that are gone and you mourn for them. One by one you take hold of the things that have become a part of who you are and build again. ~ Rachel Naomi Remen

                            “Grass is not Always Greener On the Otherside”

People live under the presumption that the grass is always greener on the other side. In other words, these people always presume that there is a man/woman who is “better” than the one they have now, or talking to now.

The grass only looks greener because you’re looking at it from a distance. I think this sort of thinking is really silly. If you find someone that you really like you may see many people who are smarter, richer, or better looking. That does not mean that they are better for you. Maybe younger women think they have all the time in the world. And in today’s world there is no reason for women to have to settle down before they have dated a variety of men. But if you continue to reject people because you think something better is going to come along you just might wind up alone.

It’s perfectly normal for people involved in long term relationships to, at one time or another, feel unsatisfied. Some might long for the excitement of meeting someone for the first time – the thrill of the chase, if you will. Others may miss the passion that comes with a new relationship, or the intimacy of sharing thoughts and dreams for the very first time. Whatever it is, it’s important for us to remember that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

True love is not something that comes every day, follow your heart, it knows the right answer.”Love is not about finding the right person, but creating a right relationship. It’s not about how much love you have in the beginning but how much love you build till the end.”

I am “what I seek”.  It is through gratitude for the present moment that the spiritual dimension of life opens up for me.

I cannot dodge responsibility for how and why my life is the way it is, being bold enough to reach out and begin with new beginnings is acting upon my choices. If I allow someone to continue to take advantage of me, then I have rewarded them for their unacceptable behavior.

Once I have the strength and courage to make a difference in these situations and believe that I deserve better; then and only then’ will I be bold enough to step up and claim it. I live “still waters run deep” , having a heart that seeks deeper within, thoughts for seeking deeper meaning.

Remember’ that if you don’t, treat the one person you love with integrity, honesty and values, one day “Someone else will.” If you continue to view the world through a filter created by past life events, then you are allowing your past to control and dictate both your present and your future.

I search  the inner side of someone, not just the outer face. I believe the total person hides deep emotions of the heart deep within. To know someone, I believe is seeking their inward appeal, not their outer appearance. The truth within is passion and desires of the heart.

I have read that carrying this quality “Still Waters Run Deep “, you would see a calm appearance on the outer side, but actually there is a very wise thought of deep knowledge; hidden experiences of unspoken pain and ridicule. He’s quiet and shy, it’s true, but still waters run deep. I feel he is someone with deep emotions, has integrity; an adherence to a code of values; soundness; and completeness. A man of dignity and character, with holding real emotions  at bay.

Self-acceptance feels good, giving you the freedom to explore your deepest thought, giving awareness that you are what you seek. The love you hope to find in the world is what you are made of, and the happiness you are searching for is your true nature. The more you search your inner soul, you will allow yourself to notice, accept and enjoy.

“The more a person analyzes his inner self, the more insignificant he seems to himself. This is the first lesson of wisdom. Let us be humble, and we will become wise. Let us know our weakness, and it will give us power.” ……………….. William Ellery Channing

The best example of this from my own life comes from my own purpose of sharing with others the message of the creative power of thought. I search for the deeper side of someone, their inner being of who they are from inside, here is where you see truth.

The only method to know people is by intuition and self learning. The true learning comes only by experience and by self analysis, and this comes natural to me, I can definitely analyze beyond belief, it’s my nature and self identity.

Intuition that comes from the soul is much deeper than reason and logic. It is the sixth sense who source is unknown to logical mind. Yet, it becomes the closest to identifying reality and the truth in someone.

If you are like me, no one ever sat you down and instructed you on, exactly how to choose a life partner. Yet, this is one of the most critical decisions we will ever make in our life – with potentially huge, disastrous repercussions for a less-than-ideal choice. A long-term relationship with the right partner can be one of the most joyous and fulfilling experiences life has to offer.

I search familiar qualities that I desire in a partner, their behavior, as well as how they present themselves. The two qualities I take very seriously; is to consider their honesty and openness/flexibility. 

Is he spontaneous,adventurous, having a sense of humor side, but can be serious too,  being unique and different in his own little way?  I also look for individuality, being his -own man-as that is one basic important area I have found makes a man standout. I have also learned successful relationships, requires communication and problem-solving skills, as well as having the ability to manage my own emotions, patience, and selflessness.

There is nothing like being held tightly and close in the arms of someone you love. Being able to sit in silence, knowing each other’s thoughts without uttering a word. Never feeling awkward, only the comfort of being who you are, without fear of ridicule or judgement.

It doesn’t take “rocket science” to figure out the ingredients for gaining happiness in a  good relationship.

“Love has its own time, its own season, and its own reasons from coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you.”…. Kent Nerburn